I am also considering a 2016 / 2017 LEAF to replace my 2013 MY.
A. I know for the federal rebate you have to have enough tax liability to claim the $7,500 credit. So a student would get no benefit. As for California I do not know...I do know there is some kind of delay on receiving the state credit (has it been funded yet?).
B. Yes it may be a hassle, but it might be better to title under your name FIRST, so you can guarantee getting the federal credit. Then simply transfer it to her later on. She can be put as an authorized driver under insurance without issue for the time being. If the California credit is a must, then find a friend of hers to "buy" the car then transfer (trust + timing + complications could ensue).
C. I think it all depends on how many she drives each day? if it's less than 20 then she would only need to charge once a week or less. Use plugshare.com or the app to verify if charging stations are nearby? I do know there are some apartment dwellers all over who do own electric cars. It's all dependent on use.
D. I have this same question as I live in NC. My thinking is just negotiate the price up front without referencing the rebate. They very likely know it's available but that is a net neutral effect on them. The fact is they should be willing to just negotiate the price without any incentives.
E. I'll let others respond on this.
F. You can ship the car cross country for $500? That seems a bit low. I was thinking more like $1,000. If you can do it lower, please let me know who can!
G. I imagine given these models are basically obsolete with the 2018 coming in, I would patiently gather quotes from more than one dealer and just see who goes the lowest (without the rebate).