A chademo connector is around AUD$1000, a crazy amount of money for something so simple and for that reason I probably won't be trying to access HV via the chademo socket on my Leaf. It would be easier and cheaper to use the Aircon or heater HV DC bus and add in an off the shelf HV connector and use that for Off-grid HVDC. That also bypasses the issue you are seeing with the charger disconnecting the HV contactors after 30 seconds.
AFAIK, the VCM must have a compatible firmware if you plan on pulling power from the battery for off-grid use. The protocol needed for this isn't included in the Australian delivered models (Gen1 anyway) though it is included in the Japan imported models. I suspect it is the same for your USA models? Another option is to use a canbridge and have it report a charge current while you are discharging, this will satisfy the Charge module and keep its contactors closed. I don't know how unsafe this would be.
I'm sure the Chinese have captured the JP Chademo protocol and have implemented it on your SETEC unit, but if the car won't support it it just won't work. Perhaps if a firmware update becomes available you could update your VCM and it should be supported. I know Australia has finally decided to allow vehicle-to-grid and that should come into effect later this year. I doubt a 12yr old leaf would be supported though.
All that said, I have a consult3 arriving today and if there are any hardware test functions that can make and break contactors, it would be fairly simple to reproduce these 'test' signals to allow HV access from the Chademo port. If i find anything I'll make a new post and detail it there. I'd like to keep this thread on track with BMS reverse engineering.