Yes, both methods use the "big" battery, just one is officially supported (via ChaDeMo) and the other is a hacky way of accessing the power.
Yes, via ChaDeMo, you don't need a key. When using the 12V system, you have to leave the Leaf in "drive" mode. You can still turn off everything (lights, AC, fans, radio, etc.) and lock the Leaf doing this. I've done it for literal days at a time during emergencies. I can't speak for all models, but my 2013 and 2020 have been "on" for days at a time with no ill effect for almost a dozens times in their lifetime of use.
Using the 12V for power does take some electrical science knowledge though or else bad things could happen if you try to draw too much power, wire it wrong, size the power wrong, etc.
Any of the old assumptions about ICE vehicles have to be left behind when dealing with an EV as it's a completely different beast in its own right.
The only thing I will add is that the method of taping the 12V power does use the DC to DC buck converter, which produces a little heat. That just means to make sure your coolant system is filled properly and that you have no water pump issues, which is a rare thing, but it does happen from the post others have made here. Basically, if your Leaf is not producing dash codes about the water pumps or coolant already, then you should be fine.