Being honest with myself, I know I have had moments of inattention, and have made mistakes. And that is despite some pretty good training on situational awareness and human factors, an understanding of the physics involved, etc.... At least enough to have earned a pilot's license with an instrument rating. Not to brag, but it is rather more difficult to earn that rating than it is to earn a drivers' license. And I'm still not perfect in the left seat of an aircraft or an automobile.
Did I "deserve" to lose my life due to those mistakes? Well, I guess there are different philosophical answers. I would assert that anyone reading this has also had moments of inattention and has made mistakes behind the wheel. And the difference between us and someone who has paid the full price, is often one of chance. "There but for the grace of God..."
Whenever I hear people suggest that they are capable of complete control, and that accidents only happen to people of lesser ability and virtue, I see the Dunning-Kruger effect:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect